Compassionate Conversations
Hi Everyone! I’m Esther Kane from Compassionate Conversations where we push the boundaries of comfort to empower you to become all that you dream of being.
Having been a psychotherapist for over 25 years, I am all-too-familiar with the fact that we humans prioritize comfort and that is why I believe that so many avoid counselling altogether.
In my role as therapist, I have the honour and privilege to journey alongside people who have the courage to face aspects of themselves that they aren’t proud of such as addictive behaviour and unhealthy relationship patterns. Many of these people have also buried past traumas which feed their addictions and low self-worth. These are the folks who are willing to take risks and examine their inner life with a flashlight together.
It is always difficult and hard work, but they are willing to do whatever it takes in order to heal and grow. If you are ready to do the same, then you’re in the right place. Compassionate Conversations is all about getting honest and real with ourselves, letting go of the past along with behaviour patterns which are no longer serving you, and growing into the person you have always wanted to be. In these podcasts, I will share incredibly powerful and life-shifting tools and practices I teach to my clients-the most important one being self-compassion - I have found that this one element is absolutely essential in order for us to heal and transform our lives.I don’t just teach these tools. I practice them myself every single day.
Why? Because I cannot take my clients to any place that I have not been myself. When I look back on my life now, I can’t believe how far I have come and how much healing is possible for one person. I am living a life that I never dreamed was possible for me. I owe so much of this to the compassionate conversations that my own therapists, guides and mentors over the years have had with me.
On our journeys, we need others who can pave the way for us; those brave souls who managed to overcome obstacles and difficulties and make it to the other side and are living proof that it’s possible!I will be interviewing many of these amazing people so that they can inspire and uplift you and give you the tools you need to transform your life for the better.
I welcome you with open arms into these compassionate conversations. Please don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast, give it a review (hopefully 5-stars!) and share episodes with others who could also benefit from them. Thanks and enjoy!
Compassionate Conversations
How One Woman Ended Toxic Relationship Patterns for Good
Esther interviews Tamara about how she used the book, “Dump That Chump: A 10- step plan for ending bad relationships and attracting the fabulous partner you deserve" to end toxic relationship patterns in her own life for good.
Episode Contents:
0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Introduction of Tamara Wensley
2:40 Why Esther wrote Dump That Chump
3:55 Esther outlines the ten steps in the book and Tamara describes how she worked through each one of them:
4:19 Step One: Make a commitment to yourself
8:43 Step Two: Do some family-of-origin work
11:44 Step Three: Re-examine your beliefs and value systems
13:56 Step Four: Change your “self-talk”
17:00 Step Five: Figure out who you are and what your needs are
21:38 Step Six: Start becoming the kind of person you want to attract
25:53 Step Seven: Create a strong image of your ideal partner
28:07 Step Eight: Study people who meet the criteria of your ideal partner
31:17 Step Nine: Become friends with people who meet your criteria
34:15 Step Ten: Date until you find your ideal partner
Show notes:
You can find Tamara here:
https://www.primalsisters.com
Where to Find Dump That Chump:
https://www.estherkane.com/resources/dump-that-chump/
Book mentioned:
Succulent Wild Woman By SARK
Exact quote: “Marry yourself first -- promise never to leave you!”
https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Succulent-Wild-Woman-(25th-Anniversary-Edition)/SARK/9781668001219
FREE Resources:
To read articles I've written about healthy relationships, click here:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/healthy-relationships/
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA
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Esther Kane, MSW, RCC
